Apparently 'having a baby' rates very low on the list of things young women want in their life these days. Do these young women know fertility declines dramatically from the age of 27 & IVF is not a guaranteed 'back up'. No one ever seems to bring this up, biological clocks are ticking away, but everyone assumes it's after the age of 35 or 40 (Hollywood doesn't help this myth with older mothers making fertility look effortless.) Actress Melissa George was quoted as saying, after the breakup of her marriage & idea of meeting someone new + having a baby . . . "i still have time, i'm only 35." Age & fertility is one limit few can defy.
I remember hearing magazine editor Deborah Thomas once saying "ooppss i forgot to have a baby" & i lost instant respect for her. How do you forget?? I was ambitious about a future career, wanted 4 children, a nice home, university education . . . a husband was on the 'life check list' too when i left school. Call me a naive giddy teenager, i knew from the moment i met my husband, he was my future . . . it was so natural to chat about babies, houses, hopes & dreams. I was playing it cool (i read Marie Claire, i knew not to appear desperate) . . . he raised these long-term-relationship topics, aged 22. We had a collective dozen nieces & nephews already, we knew what it took to have/ raise/ fund/ love a child. We are apparently in the small minority though - thinking, planning, wanting babies while we were really young.
How many couples look back, remembering the tiny first home with new babies & a broken down car, eating soup at a plastic table . . . & say it was the best time of their lives??!!
PS thank you so much for the gorgeous messages about my last post, they absolutely filled my heart with warmth & love. Our little chicken passed away before we went to bed last night, it was in the end, relief, in every aspect that the word 'relief' can be. Today i've had that cried-all-day-&-night headache, but my soul is lighter.