20 November 2011
social commentary Sunday . . . 'which role do you play in your circles??'
Some random images & thoughts. It's raining, today will be indoorsy: hang out with the children, pack orders from my big on line sale & relax. Good thing yesterday was outdoorsy: children's sports, Farmer's market, herb gardening, lawn mowing, tyre pumping & bike riding + a lovely dinner with a great gal.
Talking late into the night about social media, designing, husbands, travel, her baby plans & house renovation . . . i was thinking how i move cities constantly, i'm still friends with girls from pre/ primary/ high school & Uni + military wives from each posting, my design contacts & bloggers . . . i run in many different circles. Each group has it's drama queens, attention seekers, followers, organisers, loud & quiet ones, bossy alphas & pushovers, sometimes there are power challenges, or everyone is calm, uncompetitive, equal. I was a leader but i love being on my own too, i don't need to be surrounded. I was never a bully. I've never been a friend collector.
Sometimes i'm the organiser, sometimes happy to follow - especially if i'm a guest in someone else's circle territory, like when the preschool mums invite me to movies & lunch. They want to talk preschool, my youngest is nearly 8, they don't want to think about high school or fashion or design or decor, i just enjoy the movie & the food.
At school i remember a lot of gossip would come my way, i'd somehow decipher what was to be shared & what was to die with me. I was an excellent confidante to those who needed it & conduit to those who wanted publicity. I had a barometre on what was nasty & private, versus harmless information sharing. I was always told i was mature for my age & don't ever remember a show down of "OMG, how could you spread that gossip". I do remember we were 'a nice year' of girls, dozens of us are still great friends. My sister was 3 years ahead of me at Ravenswood & hated it, mean girls & serious reputation crushing gossip.
I still find, in my various circles, that i am the confidante. In the past months i've had friends, acquintances & on line bloggers tell me about cancer diagnosis, marriage breakdowns, depression, financial crisis & pregnancies. Poof, i'm so honoured people can be so honest & open, share & sense i'll keep their confidence. Not sure what vibe i give off, i'm open & private. I don't realise it happens, but my husband notices complete strangers will share incredible personal details with me. When you have babies with you, people will spill all about conception, pregnancy, birth, breastfeeding, poo colour/ consistency/ frequency. Not sure why, is it the sisterhood of knowing?? Blogging is like this, public posts or emailing in confidence to a blogger you've never met but trust, is a great way to get things off your chest!! I'll say it again, blogging as therapy!!
I am lucky enough to meet lots of people who read my blog, they say "you're just like your blog" which is nice, i'm nothing if not consistent & i think my blog persona is nice too!! I'm told my blog oozes love, i blog so my husband can see what we're up to & i'm all about love for him!! I also sit on a lot of confidences, from good news bloggers aren't ready to reveal yet . . . to bad news famous bloggers who are incredibly horrible business people. My lips are sealed as i'd like to think i'm above the drama, too classy to blog publicly about who has screwed up & thoroughly disappointed me. I know they know, that is enough.
So, what role are you playing in your various circles?? Is it the same one from childhood like me?? Love Posie
I also like to share & the randomly selected winner of my latest Mollie Makes magazine giveaway is one super sweet gal Emma from Frog, Goose & Bear blog. Congratulations!!