Greetings all,
Coming down from the high which was a family reunion/ 4 flights in 4 days/ my father's 80th birthday last weekend, i've had a busy week maintaining the momentum with children's events . . . Academic Awards, volleyball clinic, Suburban Challenge (think town planning for senior primary schoolers, then imagine my 3rd girl winning!!) Of course, a whole lot of chit cat is involved . . . at the school gate, with teaching staff, at sports games & with my family of marathon talkers. Can you overdose on chit chat?? Impossible for me . . . which is why my only-speak-when-has-something-worth-saying-husband is so complimentary to my world. I remember on one of our first dates, he actually said "you don't have to fill every silence & externalise every thought that pops into my head". Gosh i love his confidence.
My children are all varying combinations of chitter chatters . . . my 3rd girl can play in her room for hours, in solitude, where my first born can gabble away like any teen, but loves her silence. I'm sure she was reading in the womb, like handsome soldier, she can read for days, it's an escape. Makes her a fabulous flying companion & easy to entertain. She just read The Hunger Games yesterday, as in, before school & after dinner, gobbled it up, asleep by midnight. How?? Took me 4 days of dedicated reading chunks & neglecting housework!!
Coming down from the high which was a family reunion/ 4 flights in 4 days/ my father's 80th birthday last weekend, i've had a busy week maintaining the momentum with children's events . . . Academic Awards, volleyball clinic, Suburban Challenge (think town planning for senior primary schoolers, then imagine my 3rd girl winning!!) Of course, a whole lot of chit cat is involved . . . at the school gate, with teaching staff, at sports games & with my family of marathon talkers. Can you overdose on chit chat?? Impossible for me . . . which is why my only-speak-when-has-something-worth-saying-husband is so complimentary to my world. I remember on one of our first dates, he actually said "you don't have to fill every silence & externalise every thought that pops into my head". Gosh i love his confidence.
My children are all varying combinations of chitter chatters . . . my 3rd girl can play in her room for hours, in solitude, where my first born can gabble away like any teen, but loves her silence. I'm sure she was reading in the womb, like handsome soldier, she can read for days, it's an escape. Makes her a fabulous flying companion & easy to entertain. She just read The Hunger Games yesterday, as in, before school & after dinner, gobbled it up, asleep by midnight. How?? Took me 4 days of dedicated reading chunks & neglecting housework!!
My next girl, wow, she floors me with her ability to read, as she is such a huge talker & story teller, yet she reads all 7 Harry Potter books every school holidays, over again. I love this balance of social jibber jabber & silence, she fits more into her day than anyone i know.
I often wonder how my constant banter affects my children?? It has been a very successful experiment in socialising them, as until recently, every 2 years they were plonked into a new school/ city/ environment & left to make friends - just like that. No consistency of childhood friendships, constantly leaving what they know & being dropped in the deep end. Their conversation skills have assisted their resilience & made every Army move easy. The teachers always say "you're so social Jennie" but personality traits don't automatically translate to children, i guess i got lucky.
I know my boy craves more time with boys, he loves his cousins, he misses Daddy. I don't care so much for this genderless society which is politically correct, boys need men in their lives, good solid male role models. They talk about completely different things to me.
On my weekend away, i shared a room with my son (the 3 girls had their own room) & i love having him to myself. Being alone with your child, one on one, they think, ask questions, it's special. Then he asked me to talk him to sleep, the last word on my chit chat skills!!
Small talk with my parents, i miss this, my Mum's Alzheimer's has taken this away. Aimed at me is polite conversation, like i'm the waitress at a cafe, gone is any depth or recognition of our history. I can't have indepth debates with my father either, as Mum constantly interupts or he's distracted by her, it's really hard to process, it's exhausting actually, small talk is all we manage.
So Maxabella Loves, I'm Grateful for 'chit chat' which runs very deep with me, love Posie