03 October 2012
ever say "no thank you" to an affirmation??
Now i am a huge fan of the Brave Girls, who send these incredible affirmations to my InBox each day, they so often nail my emotions about life, love & relationships (scarily so) but today i read this one & said "no thank you."
When your life is fantastic, you have to seize that feeling. You never know what is around the corner: health scare, child dilemma, car accident, tax audit, husband's work, holiday cancelation!!
I have a truly blessed life . . . a wonderful childhood with a large family, travel crazy parents & the best education in Australia's greatest city, Sydney (don't even try to argue with me!!) I got into all the sports teams, friendship circles & University courses i desired, then met & married my teen love - avoiding relationship baggage . . . had four dream children - i truly have zero complaints. My husband says i have way more than my fair share of self esteem & confidence, so i share it - with meaningful compliments & fun with friends. I don't have a self sabotage tendency either (no drinking, gambling, cheating, debt) other than clothes shopping & weight gain from stress. Those have both been nailed recently by slowly closing down my business (income) & losing 9kg on Michelle Bridges 12WBT in the first 5 weeks so far. The stress is dripping off me too!!
I have issues, my mother with Alzheimer's, my father just took a spill & my husband might have to go back to war next year. I'm realistic . . . these are not things i can control, so i process & accept them. I have always believed that only i can stuff up my own life, i am responsible & can blame no one for any choices which go askew. That doesn't mean crap people don't cross my path, i've learned to trust my senses & walk away, quickly.
See why i shunned this Brave Girl's message, very happily so. I have managed to switch my business acumen & determination to focussing on myself, finally. My husband kept saying "be selfish, go to the gym at night, i'll supervise dinner & homework" but i actually love that part of my life - in touch with what the children are learning - then i realised that HE wanted to spend time alone with the children, so i do that 6p.m. Spin Class & freaking enjoy it!!
The funny thing is, right now, i could not be more ill, i have a throaty cough, a runny nose & it's day 3 of a migraine, ick. So to read that 'pain is a gift' & nod knowingly, i've been there, however, the fact i can't relate to their message today . . . that is an affirmation unto itself. Plus it's the middle of school holidays, i've always adored the extra time with my children . . . i have four happy beings who don't fight, they argue from time to time but never nasty fisty cuffs or horrible words, they play happily for hours on end. I work hard for harmony, i spend months raising them solo, i don't do drama or unhealthy sibling conflict. They are not spoilt with toys, but company & they know - only boring people get bored - so find fun or solitude.
While i get many migraines each year, this has been a cracker, yet to remain connected to the world from my pillow, i've discovered low-lit-non-blinding Instagram & the lovely community there. It's light, happy & stress free, just what i needed if i was going to add another social media to my collection. Here are some of my images, between naps, i'm Posie Shoots if you're keen.
I'll work out a few Instagram collage apps, i'm still a learner on the iPhone 5. Any suggestions are appreciated. Now, go take hold of your life, dust off the clutter & embrace the day. Or like the Brave Girls suggest, deal with your pain, sort it right out - of your life!! Love Posie