14 February 2011
bling on love . . . my valentine
Happy Valentine's Day. Whether you fall for it . . . the pressure to buy a card, jewels, flowers &/ or chocolates, who cares, i'm giving a shout out to my beloved husband!! He reads my blog, so i post to keep him up to date with my life & our children while he's away. Also, if you ever thought i made things up or exagerated anything . . . how dumb would i look to him?? My children & real life friends read my blog . . . so i keep it real man!! They all know how crazy in love i am with my handsome soldier & our children really are great little people.
There is a Valentine's Day link party with Gifts of Serendipity & Maxabella Loves, where people are flashing their love bling. Voila, my rings, the half carat diamond says "we were young & modest with a tiny income", my husband chose the design & i still love the style. I fiddle with my rings, especially when i think about my husband. He is my teenage love, this is our 14th year of marriage/ 17th Valentine's Day, we've never skipped a beat.
Some fun divorce statistics, if there is such a thing . . . military families have a 50% divorce rate (married a solider, check); parents with multiples have much higher divorce rate (twins, check); couples who marry under 25 have a higher divorce rate (22 &25, check); for every daughter your rate of divorce increases 8% (3 daughters, check); major life stressors like moving house/ interstate, losing a parent, acts of war (check, check, check) - that puts us at 350% change of divorce.
Why do we laugh off these statistics?? In a word 'communication'. I am dedicated to my husband, his career & never complain if he's home late or away for months - he's providing for our family; we dated for 3 years & talked endlessly about children, retirement, extended family; we had twins in our mid 20s with energy to burn; & we've never fallen out of love for a second. We're physical but with months apart, we are forced to talk, write, Skype & dream, when we're together it's like a honeymoon all over again. All in all, when he's out in a war zone, the last thing i want him worrying about is how i'm coping at home & if i still love him. He's the strong-silent-broody type, i'm the talker, but he nods & i force him to think deeply "are you happy, what can we work on" & above all, we're always laughing together or at my expense, either way, we have SO much fun!!
The most fascinating of those statistics is the 'for every daughter your rate of divorce increases 8%', even the professor who discovered that from decades of unbias census statistics, has 3 daughters. It's the principle that people traditionally want sons, so you're more likely to have a larger family (strain on finances, time, energy, marriage) if you have daughters first rather than sons!! We wanted 4 children, so the fact we had 3 girls first had little to do with that bloody annoying question "are you trying for a boy" - no, just a 4th child!!
Filled with love in my heart & children who enjoy a bit of tax deductible craft . . . i picked up these beauties from Kikki-K, which kept them busy all day making cards for friends. I asked the children what love meant to them . . . they came up with beautiful things like "love is family", "i love you", "having someone love me as much as Daddy loves you" ahhhh . . . to unexpected comments like "i know what you & Daddy do at night, can you be quiet". Gulp. Love Posie