14 February 2011

bling on love . . . my valentine

Greetings all,
Happy Valentine's Day.  Whether you fall for it . . . the pressure to buy a card, jewels, flowers &/ or chocolates, who cares, i'm giving a shout out to my beloved husband!!  He reads my blog, so i post to keep him up to date with my life & our children while he's away.  Also, if you ever thought i made things up or exagerated anything . . . how dumb would i look to him??  My children & real life friends read my blog . . . so i keep it real man!!  They all know how crazy in love i am with my handsome soldier & our children really are great little people. 
There is a Valentine's Day link party with Gifts of Serendipity & Maxabella Loves, where people are flashing their love bling.  Voila, my rings, the half carat diamond says "we were young & modest with a tiny income", my husband chose the design & i still love the style.  I fiddle with my rings, especially when i think about my husband.  He is my teenage love, this is our 14th year of marriage/ 17th Valentine's Day, we've never skipped a beat. 
Some fun divorce statistics, if there is such a thing . . . military families have a 50% divorce rate (married a solider, check); parents with multiples have much higher divorce rate (twins, check); couples who marry under 25 have a higher divorce rate (22 &25, check); for every daughter your rate of divorce increases 8% (3 daughters, check); major life stressors like moving house/ interstate, losing a parent, acts of war (check, check, check) - that puts us at 350% change of divorce.
Why do we laugh off these statistics??  In a word 'communication'.  I am dedicated to my husband, his career & never complain if he's home late or away for months - he's providing for our family; we dated for 3 years & talked endlessly about children, retirement, extended family; we had twins in our mid 20s with energy to burn; & we've never fallen out of love for a second.  We're physical but with months apart, we are forced to talk, write, Skype & dream, when we're together it's like a honeymoon all over again.  All in all, when he's out in a war zone, the last thing i want him worrying about is how i'm coping at home & if i still love him.  He's the strong-silent-broody type, i'm the talker, but he nods & i force him to think deeply "are you happy, what can we work on" & above all, we're always laughing together or at my expense, either way, we have SO much fun!!
The most fascinating of those statistics is the 'for every daughter your rate of divorce increases 8%', even the professor who discovered that from decades of unbias census statistics, has 3 daughters.  It's the principle that people traditionally want sons, so you're more likely to have a larger family (strain on finances, time, energy, marriage) if you have daughters first rather than sons!!  We wanted 4 children, so the fact we had 3 girls first had little to do with that bloody annoying question "are you trying for a boy" - no, just a 4th child!!
 Filled with love in my heart & children who enjoy a bit of tax deductible craft . . . i picked up these beauties from Kikki-K, which kept them busy all day making cards for friends.  I asked the children what love meant to them . . . they came up with beautiful things like "love is family", "i love you", "having someone love me as much as Daddy loves you" ahhhh . . . to unexpected comments like "i know what you & Daddy do at night, can you be quiet".  Gulp.  Love Posie

30 comments:

Maxabella said...

That last comment is hysterical! I'm thinking it's a good thing your lovely man is away so often...!! x

Cherry Red Quilter said...

omg still laughing out loud at the can you be quiet comment - and I think I will be for a LONGGGGGG time - enjoy and happy valentines to your and your lovely hubby!

Janette said...

I know what you and daddy do at night...!!!!! BA,ha,ha,ha,ah!
That is SO funny! Have a great Valentine's Day,
Jxx

Felicity said...

Oh my goodness, you have given me the gift of unbridled laughter this afternoon - that last comment = precious!

How amazing are those statistics?
More importantly, how amazing are the pair of you?

Thanks so much for jumping on board with our little bit of blingy love fun today - I always enjoy reading about your family and the love you have for your man.

Felicity xxx

Taylor Made said...

Stat's who needs them....you keep doing what you're doing and you'll have many more Valentines day's hopefully together in the same place.

Kymmie said...

Oh my! Aren't you full of information? I have learnt so much by reading this post. And I love that you have been the odds with those horrible facts. And so glad you explained why girls are more stressful. I was thinking about the 'bitch' factor that comes with them (okay, only sometimes then!). So there you go. You two are amazing, and I totally understand the loud bedroom noises if you're apart that much. Hell, you have to make up for lost time! (But perhaps sound proofing your room might help???) Happy Valentine's Day. This sure was a fabulous post (and I'm still smiling). xx

Kylie said...

Your children are priceless:)
Wow on those stats - I recall sitting in our pre marriage stuff and being told that 1 in marriages would not make it to the third year anniversary. Tim and I sat there and shock our heads. I think that comunication is the key and sadly there is not enough of that around. Happy Valentines Mrs Posie - hope the four muchkins showered you in kisses.

Ellieboo said...

That is funny :) Wow those stats are stacked against you - must feel great proving them completely wrong.

Sarah B said...

Oh my gawd, that's hysterical, the last comment I mean. The rest of it is just plain adorable!!

Joni Llanora said...

Those kids' statements are just so funny! Thanks for sharing.

Sindy said...

Ha ha. Perhaps the "communication" is the key to why your children know "what you and Daddy are doing at night"...

The Moerks said...

Hee hee am snickering away like a teenager at the last comment! Kids are too funny!

Jacinta @ modelmumma said...

You are too funny! Your poor kids, they'll be scarred for life if you and hubby don't be careful!
But glad you are defying the odds with a FABULOUS marriage. Yes communication is the key. And perhaps also not taking the easy way out when things get hard and giving up. Hope you've had a LOVE-ly day. xo
PS - go the daughters!!!

Brenda @ Mira Narnie said...

omg - can't stop giggling - those comments are too true!! i think i would have scored around 250% on that divorce statistic too - hah! what a joke - you guys rock, and i can almost hear you say those word and see the genuine sentiment to your dear hubby - wherever he is right now!! happy valentines day to you - love your bling too xx

Seaweed and Raine said...

You totally crack me up! :) Espcially with that last comment(... and the apples don't fall far from the tree!!!)Seriously though, it's wonderful to hear someone talking about the effort that they put into their relationship - because they WANT to. Because they are dedicated to the one they said "yes" to years before. May you live above the statistics. Happy V day to you and your hubby.

Mama of 2 boys said...

Wow Posie! You are such an inspirational wife & mother. I LOVE your attitude to... well, everything!
Kids! Bless them and their innocent remarks, they do make for some light humour in our day, your young ones are a hoot!
Thanks for another laughter inducing instalment xo

Cate said...

gulp indeed! So glad mine aren't that old and cluey yet!!
xxxCate

Thea said...

Another lovely post from Mrs Posie and ouch, you got told by one of the misses no doubt.

Queen Of The Armchair aka Dzintra Stitcheries said...

Ha ha what a crack up...don't you just love childrens' honesty at something they say!!! Dzintra
PS the choccies are wonderful, there is one in there I am still raving about...of course I had to open them straight away and test them!!!

Queen Of The Armchair aka Dzintra Stitcheries said...

Ha ha what a crack up...don't you just love childrens' honesty at something they say!!! Dzintra
PS the choccies are wonderful, there is one in there I am still raving about...of course I had to open them straight away and test them!!!

Tania McCartney said...

Was just in Kikki K yesterday oohing and ahhing over these - so not surprised you have them!!!

Exquisite Accessories said...

Hee hee the little darlings, last comment has made me smile, loved your story so nice of you to share always great those first days back a continuel honeymoon!!

Catherine said...

You are such a funny lady Posie, you crack me up. You sound like you and your hubby have a fantastic relationship, so good to hear that you two really loooove each other too;) My oh my we have been married for 14 years this year too and been together for 18 years, I love being able to say that:) Hope you're having a good week. xo

Angela Furlong said...

You make me laugh! I'm kind of grateful we had a boy!

Angela x

Heidi said...

I love your last comment the other morning we got, why is your bra on the floor Mom......Kids!

Beach Vintage.com said...

Forget the stats love, you guys are meant for each other.

Leonie said...

hahaha...thats so funny!! Love the honesty of kids!
What a beautiful testimony your post is to the love between you and your hubby. It was beautiful to read. Good on you for supporting his career and being such a great Mum. You're an inspiration.

m.e (Cathie) said...

ahhh, hilarious! can't believe you didn't turn red & sink into the floor. but as you said, you keep it real so your kids are definitely very clever.

sending you love & wishing you a great market...don't stress!!

Mary said...

Day late in reading this post. Can relate to much of it - married to a Canadian soldier (now retired), 3 kids (twins in there too), 2 daughters, 12 moves in 14 years (including 2overseas), war zone postings before the days of email/SKYPE and we are still going strong (29 years of marriage this year and we've known each other for 40 years!). Life after kids have flown the coop and retirement arrives is still great! And we once heard the same comment as your last one. Enjoy your weekend - they are special when they are rare. Mary

Tania McCartney said...

Just had to tell you after I eyed off this stamp set at Kikki K, my siser sent it to me for my birthday! SPOOKINESS! x