1. ATTITUDE: so you're parents, deal with it, make your holidays family orientated or hire a babysitter & pretend you're just a couple again. Blunt enough for you?? Make it a great holiday & find your inner child. I'm a very relaxed parent who is happy to devote my holidays to children's activities & my husband is thrilled to see us all having a great time & pays the bills. Know your children & your husband - when do they get tired, will Daddy want to have an afternoon nap?? Will he get annoyed at your shopping?? Will you need to have a place to hide shopping in an unmarked suitcase?? Will you be happy to spend a morning alone with the children so he goes off to the city & does his own shopping?? Realise that it's a holiday for everyone. Finally deal with the fact you may only get one ace holiday every few years. We actually make our 'moving' interstate a holiday & rarely take a trip inbetween.
3. KNOW YOUR FAMILY: do they like swimming at home?? If not, don't take them to a tropical island holiday & expect them to suddenly love swimming!! If they are terrified of people dressed up in suits, i don't recommend them finding their confidence at theme parks either. You've probably spent a lot of money, time, energy & annual leave organising this holiday, so make sure you're taking the kind of holiday which will leave you with happy memories & experiences, not pent up stress & resentment. I feel ill when i see children on holiday or at a restaurant with an iPod, DVD player or game boy & their parents let them use them!! Oh the horror, why bother bringing them if you don't plan on engaging with them?? I believe pencils, books & activities, even iPods are fine for travelling long distances when there is nothing to see & to keep them from nagging. Know what they like - my children love swimming, tropical weather, pirates, princesses, international food, rides, running free - so for us, Hong Kong Disneyland was a perfect focus for a holiday. The children were aged 3 to 8 when we went, so we informed our little fella that he might not be tall enough for some rides & we'd take turns revisiting rides he could do or sat out with him. He was fine. Also, little ones might need a pram, favourite toy, snacks, rest spots & a day off from all the excitement. Splitting children up also gives them a break from each other - girls with Daddy, boys with Mum or vice versa. Finally - if you wear them out during the day, they'll collapse in a heap & sleep so THEN you can feel like a couple again & have the evening to yourselves. Love Posie